You cannot move on or grow if you aren’t brutally honest. You must admit to your mistakes. You must be willing to lose to gain. If you’re not honest with yourself and those around you, then you won’t be able to grow.
The hidden feelings will only dwell and build up on the inside. This is the only way you’ll truly gain forgiveness from God or others. Even though you may feel completely vulnerable for your regretful actions or feelings, this must be done in order to give yourself wholly to someone.
It’s about acceptance of past mistakes and characteristics that may not be perfect. You cannot sacrifice if you aren’t completely honest to reveal your mistakes and issues. If you’re not willing to give your all, then you won’t be able to change for the better. If you’re not willing to accept your past mistakes and to be honest with yourself, then you’ll travel through life being stubbornly selfish, unable to open up and truly feel at ease with yourself.
We all have a lot to learn, even from ourselves. We must learn from our mistakes, but we must admit to them first. And I’m not saying I haven’t done this because this is part of my growing process as well. This is something I’m always working on and I hope you can too.