When can you finally realize your actions are borderline foolish, all the while thinking they’ve been admirable?
That’s a tough question to answer. When you think your actions are admirable, different perspectives from loved ones may rescale and redefine what you think is admirable. In other words, it may seem admirable to sacrifice your time and energy, but in their eyes, it may be foolish to the point of wasting time.
And foolish acts are very tough to overcome, especially if you’ve been doing your “admirable” things for so long. I know I’ve written about using friends and family as backboards with your problems; bounce things off of them for proper/healthy direction. It’s the same with this instance.
It either takes a dramatic fight with an ex or time after time of trying to win them back, to realize the distinction between foolishness and admirability. We all tend to think and want our actions to be admirable. But to another person, this may seem desperate and pointless because the damage has already been made.
Whatever the case may be, you always need to follow your heart. If it feels right to act foolish, then who’s to say it’s wrong. And in the end, it’ll simply come down to, “did I put in the effort?” “Did I do all that I could to make things better?” If you can say yes to both of these questions, then your actions were truly admirable.
Hold your loved one dear. Don’t make wrongful decisions that you’ll regret. Because once you begin regretting, you may try to swim against the current. And find yourself at the crossroads of foolishness and admirability.