Jesus Loves Pornstars

Stop!  Don’t be upset!  Please continue reading.  Now, before you skim and skip to the next blog post here under your categorical listing; this won’t be a distasteful, repulsive post, but instead, a very, very ambitious undertaking to converse about an awkward, yet profoundly troublesome concern of our society today.

As Christians, Believers, or simply churchgoers, we all may agree church and pornography shouldn’t even be in the same sentence together.  Or if it is, self-reproach or contrition is the clandestine driving force.  In other words, it’s a buried topic.  It’s something we shield and hide.  But it’s only lurking.  A snake in the grass.  A covert killer.  A secluded problem of our culture that’s beginning to be exposed or even worse, is being withheld as the root problem of the ever-increasing social and relational problems of our modern culture.

Urbanity-created images of flawless, photoshopped, skimpy-clad male and female models have evolved into an identity of acceptance.  Whether it’s on the newsstand, car commercials, or apparel companies, we’ve gone beyond the point of simple recognition of the ever-popular excuse “sex sells.”  Because these images are omnipresent and nearly impossible to avoid, we may conform or accommodate to these societal standards.  By way of explanation, we’re subconsciously attending to and monopolizing every single image that passes through the cornea, no matter the subject.

It doesn’t matter if you’re male or female, there’s always temptation of physical or sexual/sensual desire, even if you may feel impenetrable to such thing.  Pornography is an immoral, damaging catalyst, leading to, but not limited to: emptiness, deceit, delusion, fraudulence, addiction, promiscuity, and so on.  This is a beast, a force to be reckoned with.  As a society who’s irrationally evolving into a more accepting and affirming to new communal values, we’re amusing, nay playing with the fallacious interpretation of love.

The shifting landscape of our new societal norms and values corresponding to definitions of intimacy, love, and sex should be alarming.  To be subject to such misrepresentative illustrations of non-Bibical standards, access and availability of sinful features is beyond convenient and effortless via the Internet.  Research on Internet pornography statistics is staggering.  Every second, there is $3,075.64 being spent on pornography.  In that same second, 372 Internet users are typing adult search terms into search engines.  Every 39 minutes a new pornographic video is being created in the United States, according to toptenreviews.com.

For every second, for every moment someone may be subjecting themselves to naughty, seemingly harmless images, contradictory, detrimental thoughts consume your attention and imagination.  Sinful auxiliary speculation creates ignorance, creates inadequacy, creates unsatisfactory attitudes towards a significant other.  Specifically, we think our personal, intimate relationships should mirror the fraudulent fantasy experience pornography offers.  But it doesn’t.  These two worlds were NEVER meant to be equivalent.  They were NEVER meant to align.  Because there’s disappointment in the bedroom, because there’s mediocrity, compared to the falsified experience seen through pornography, you become unsatisfied, you become unhappy.  Satisfaction and happiness should be synonymous to a healthy relationship, not the opposite.  The snake has struck…

God didn’t design us to absorb such sinful content!

In order for change and healing to occur, we must be honest.  We must be transparent with this topic.  We must not hide from it.  As tough as it is to admit, I’ve struggled with this in my past relationship.  It is demoralizing, it’s destructive to relationships and marriages.  It can be adultery.  It can be idolatry.  It’ll ruin your life.  And our solution is so often avoidance.  We always want to hide our sexual, fleshly sins, we always want to cover it, bury it; “who will find out,” “this is ok,” “Men’s Health says masturbation is healthy.”

The Bible tells us to run away from these parents of evil.

“The body was not meant for sex sins.  It was meant to work for the Lord.  The Lord is for our body”-1 Corinthians 6:13. 

“Have nothing to do with sex sins!  Any other sin that a man does, does not hurt his own body.  But the man who does a sex sin sins against his own body.  Do you not know that your body is a house of God where the Holy Spirit lives?  God gave you His Holy Spirit.  Now you belong to God.  You do not belong to yourselves.  God bought you with a great price.  So honor God with your body.  You belong to Him”-1 Corinthians 6:18-20.

Just recently, I found this amazing ministry called xxxchurch.com.  It’s a ministry for pornography addiction, sexual issues, and concerns; focused at loving on, encouraging, and faithfully inserting Jesus Christ into the porn industry; a business you’d think would be impervious to any sort of non-pornographic message.  But as Luke 7:36 to 7:50 describes Jesus’ encounter with a prostitute, her sins were forgiven because she allowed Jesus into her heart.  She gave herself to Him, even though she was trapped in sin as a “lady of the night.”  But through God’s grace, salvation, and forgiveness, no one is too far away from forgiveness and deliverance from evil, and yes, even pornstars!

Here’s a prayer below for those of you who may be stuck/addicted on images, stuck on physical and sexual attractions; for those of you who may be dealing with looking for better, looking for something more, finding yourself desensitized to your relational intimacy, love, and sex because of your secret behavior.  I love you all and hope you can overcome this through Jesus Christ, as I have!

I do not understand my own actions, for what I want to do I did not do, but what I hate I do.  The battle of my flesh seems to conquer my spirit every time.  Lord, help me to overcome this struggle.  Put this flesh under submission.  I must practice to feed more of my spirit and less of my flesh so when the temptation comes I will not fail or beat myself up for sinning against you, but I will come out victorious.  O’God hear my desperate cry.  I need your strength, self-control, and discipline.  In Jesus’ name, Amen!

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15 responses to “Jesus Loves Pornstars

  • garden2day

    You hit it directly. Today, I am experiencing the effects due to my husband’s intrigue and lack of self-discipline. It began with forwards on his phone which lead to adultery, a baby, separation, and a boatload of pain and strife for my children and me… It is like a living hell. We watched as it destroyed the marriage of our minister and his wife to go on and destroy our marriage… It feeds on itself and fools the person into believing that “they” are just part of the rest of society–no different–and everyone is doing it. Hogwash!

    I wish that every man could see the threat of this wildfire before it consumes him and everything in its path. I wish that every marriage and relationship could be saved before it goes too far. I wish that all could read your post and be thoroughly touched by your words and the Holy Spirit of God–learn what is right and wrong again and see how much pain people have caused God and so many others. Thank you for this post. I pray that God will use it for His Will.

    • jthealthyfit

      I am so thankful and blessed you have shared your story. It’s through trials, through hardships the Lord can really shine! It doesn’t matter how deep, how hard it may be, He will always reign, He can always be the saving grace, no matter the circumstances!! I pray you can check out the website http://www.xxxchurch.com. They have so many resources available for a family to overcome such horribly destructive behavior. It’s all about accountability and admitting there’s a serious problem occurring. Even though we may falter, the Lord is always constant, He will never falter and stumble. I will continue praying for you and your family. God is amazing!! Those who trust in the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not grow weary, they shall walk and not faint. God Bless You!

      • garden2day

        Thank you so much for your prayers. I briefly checked out the site so far. I have been praying for reconciliation but I can’t even get the horse to the trough… There are some serious problems-he was a strong Christian man. I have watched as the devil overtook him (his mind) completely to the point that he said he did not thirst for God anymore. Part of me died that day. His mind is so off now. I truly hope you can touch others with your post. I even wrote a book and put it online but wasn’t geared just toward this subject. It is at http://theheartiswhatmatters.wordpress.com and you can delete this address if you would like as I am not here to peddle myself. 😀 Just passionate about God’s love and what we can do. Thanks again!

      • jthealthyfit

        Just remember, nothing is too deep, nothing is too far gone to be saved by His amazing grace! The only thing you can do is to be a living example, to be there, to encourage, to strive to be the best woman/wife you can be! And simply pray, wait for the day, he admits there’s a problem, admit he needs help, admit he needs the Lord again. It’s not about the post, it’s not about your book, but Jesus Christ, who allowed us the ability, who gave us the courage and strength to step outside the confines of comfortability. I will definitely check your book out and once again, thank you for sharing/commenting! God has a great plan for you!

    • isaiah54project

      I have gone through something similar. I wrote about some lessons I learned, unfortunatly late, on my blog in hopes of helping others fight for their marriages.
      I will be praying for you both. God bless!

      • jthealthyfit

        Yes, it ruins lives, it ruins marriages! This can be conquered only through the grace of Jesus Christ! First, we should be real about all of it. We can’t hide from it anymore and we have to be open about protecting loved ones and when we do know about a loved one who may be struggling, we must confirm comfortability with them, that letting God have this addiction, that we won’t pass judgment, that we won’t make them feel inferior, that it’s a battle we can fight together because one cannot fight it alone! I will be praying for you as well!! God Bless You!

  • Mel

    A very fine post indeed. Thanks for speaking light into a subject most people avoid.

  • memoricprism

    I’m considered very chaste, at eighteen years old, small for my age and very quiet nobody expects me to do anything bad. I almost lost it once, but then realized that my ultimate goal: to be a mother, would be completely ruined if I gave into the lusts of humanity.

    Thank you for this post. 🙂

    • jthealthyfit

      Amen! That’s amazing! I’m glad you experienced introspection about your future. That you weren’t going to devalue your life and body, that you were going to glorify yourself, for the purpose that God designed us all to do the same. Our body was created at a price, so honor and glorify your body only for the sole purpose for the Lord. It’s so easy for us to get sucked into temptation, so easy for us to falter, but it’s through His strength, through His glory and power it’s all possible to defy the people who may be pressuring us to do wrong, defy culture who says it’s right, defy anyone who thinks otherwise. Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting!! This post has already touched so many people and I’m so so blessed that God put this on my heart to share with others because just as I said, we cannot hide from this, we cannot sweep it under the rug and expect people to change, expect our culture and society to realize we’ve had it backwards. I hope you can come back! You’re input and comments will always be highly valued here!!

  • isaiah54project

    You have hit on a very important subject and spoke effectively and honestly about it. Thank you for that. I pray that many people will be helped and find healing through your blog. I will continue to follow.

    • jthealthyfit

      Thank you so much for visiting and commenting! That’s the key, being honest about it. We have to be honest. We have to be upfront about this stuff because if not, people may become reserved or upset that they may have this inappropriate behavior in their private lives. Well, as believers, that’s the first thing we need to do is to show nothing is too far out there or sinful from salvation and forgiveness. This was God’s post, not mine! He has armed me with this knowledge, with this experience that I’ve learned and have changed through Him alone. Thank you so much for commenting! You’re thoughts and concerns are always respected and honored here!

  • asd539

    The biggest battle most men have with this is admitting it to other people to help them overcome it. You have to find a shame free environment to help you get over this type of addiction. Thanks for an honest post that is very important to bring to peoples attention. Awesome post!!

    • jthealthyfit

      You’re exactly right!! Some people may feel a shame-free environment isn’t available or impossible to find. As believers, we need to realize this sinful behavior can affect everyone, even Christians. As a result, we need to be more upfront about this topic because it’s so infectious in our world today. To help and to encourage others, we must get it out there, we must admit to it’s existence before any change can take place. Most importantly, we need to realize we’re all human, we will falter and fall away at one point or another; the inevitable consequence of being human. So, we must be there when people falter, an accountability partner, someone to redirect their attention to the Lord when they may feel tempted is what http://www.xxxchurch.com is all about too! Thanks for commenting, I really appreciate your input!

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