Stop! Don’t be upset! Please continue reading. Now, before you skim and skip to the next blog post here under your categorical listing; this won’t be a distasteful, repulsive post, but instead, a very, very ambitious undertaking to converse about an awkward, yet profoundly troublesome concern of our society today.
As Christians, Believers, or simply churchgoers, we all may agree church and pornography shouldn’t even be in the same sentence together. Or if it is, self-reproach or contrition is the clandestine driving force. In other words, it’s a buried topic. It’s something we shield and hide. But it’s only lurking. A snake in the grass. A covert killer. A secluded problem of our culture that’s beginning to be exposed or even worse, is being withheld as the root problem of the ever-increasing social and relational problems of our modern culture.
Urbanity-created images of flawless, photoshopped, skimpy-clad male and female models have evolved into an identity of acceptance. Whether it’s on the newsstand, car commercials, or apparel companies, we’ve gone beyond the point of simple recognition of the ever-popular excuse “sex sells.” Because these images are omnipresent and nearly impossible to avoid, we may conform or accommodate to these societal standards. By way of explanation, we’re subconsciously attending to and monopolizing every single image that passes through the cornea, no matter the subject.
It doesn’t matter if you’re male or female, there’s always temptation of physical or sexual/sensual desire, even if you may feel impenetrable to such thing. Pornography is an immoral, damaging catalyst, leading to, but not limited to: emptiness, deceit, delusion, fraudulence, addiction, promiscuity, and so on. This is a beast, a force to be reckoned with. As a society who’s irrationally evolving into a more accepting and affirming to new communal values, we’re amusing, nay playing with the fallacious interpretation of love.
The shifting landscape of our new societal norms and values corresponding to definitions of intimacy, love, and sex should be alarming. To be subject to such misrepresentative illustrations of non-Bibical standards, access and availability of sinful features is beyond convenient and effortless via the Internet. Research on Internet pornography statistics is staggering. Every second, there is $3,075.64 being spent on pornography. In that same second, 372 Internet users are typing adult search terms into search engines. Every 39 minutes a new pornographic video is being created in the United States, according to toptenreviews.com.
For every second, for every moment someone may be subjecting themselves to naughty, seemingly harmless images, contradictory, detrimental thoughts consume your attention and imagination. Sinful auxiliary speculation creates ignorance, creates inadequacy, creates unsatisfactory attitudes towards a significant other. Specifically, we think our personal, intimate relationships should mirror the fraudulent fantasy experience pornography offers. But it doesn’t. These two worlds were NEVER meant to be equivalent. They were NEVER meant to align. Because there’s disappointment in the bedroom, because there’s mediocrity, compared to the falsified experience seen through pornography, you become unsatisfied, you become unhappy. Satisfaction and happiness should be synonymous to a healthy relationship, not the opposite. The snake has struck…
God didn’t design us to absorb such sinful content!
In order for change and healing to occur, we must be honest. We must be transparent with this topic. We must not hide from it. As tough as it is to admit, I’ve struggled with this in my past relationship. It is demoralizing, it’s destructive to relationships and marriages. It can be adultery. It can be idolatry. It’ll ruin your life. And our solution is so often avoidance. We always want to hide our sexual, fleshly sins, we always want to cover it, bury it; “who will find out,” “this is ok,” “Men’s Health says masturbation is healthy.”
The Bible tells us to run away from these parents of evil.
“The body was not meant for sex sins. It was meant to work for the Lord. The Lord is for our body”-1 Corinthians 6:13.
“Have nothing to do with sex sins! Any other sin that a man does, does not hurt his own body. But the man who does a sex sin sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a house of God where the Holy Spirit lives? God gave you His Holy Spirit. Now you belong to God. You do not belong to yourselves. God bought you with a great price. So honor God with your body. You belong to Him”-1 Corinthians 6:18-20.
Just recently, I found this amazing ministry called xxxchurch.com. It’s a ministry for pornography addiction, sexual issues, and concerns; focused at loving on, encouraging, and faithfully inserting Jesus Christ into the porn industry; a business you’d think would be impervious to any sort of non-pornographic message. But as Luke 7:36 to 7:50 describes Jesus’ encounter with a prostitute, her sins were forgiven because she allowed Jesus into her heart. She gave herself to Him, even though she was trapped in sin as a “lady of the night.” But through God’s grace, salvation, and forgiveness, no one is too far away from forgiveness and deliverance from evil, and yes, even pornstars!
Here’s a prayer below for those of you who may be stuck/addicted on images, stuck on physical and sexual attractions; for those of you who may be dealing with looking for better, looking for something more, finding yourself desensitized to your relational intimacy, love, and sex because of your secret behavior. I love you all and hope you can overcome this through Jesus Christ, as I have!
I do not understand my own actions, for what I want to do I did not do, but what I hate I do. The battle of my flesh seems to conquer my spirit every time. Lord, help me to overcome this struggle. Put this flesh under submission. I must practice to feed more of my spirit and less of my flesh so when the temptation comes I will not fail or beat myself up for sinning against you, but I will come out victorious. O’God hear my desperate cry. I need your strength, self-control, and discipline. In Jesus’ name, Amen!