“I woke up a few years ago and realized that I no longer had a grip on who I was…the me that I was living with was this dude who changed himself all the time to try and get other people to like him…and my entire identity was wrapped up in everyone else’s approval of me……so this is me – breaking loose of that piece of bondage and concerning myself with the approval of only One and not the many.”-David Dunn
As I reflect on the year or so, my mind isn’t wrapped around a hyperbole, but rather a conciseness of where I’ve come and what has happened in my life. The adventure, beyond the words of this blog simply may seem as a misconception or oversight, or even a fabrication of the truth, but I promise you, the sincerity and candid thoughts behind these words are the essence of my true self.
With that said, separate from anxiety and fear, I’m going to reexamine and recollect on the journey I’ve experienced through this blog. If you have read my story (who am i?), you’ll quickly realize I use to be a perplexed individual, having no sense of direction, focus, or motivation for my life. Through the difficult remodeling experiences, maturation of habits, and the rediscovery of my true personality, there are SEVEN disciplines cultivated about myself as well as life in general; with all highly essential and conducive to continued consistent growth and well-being. Not limited to, but highly profound learned disciplines are as follows:
1) Face Your Fears. No matter where you are in life, you must not shy away from the difficult moments. Whether it’s apart of your previous habits of turning to “comfort food” or some other procrastination outlet, we MUST deal with the situation at hand. However difficult a situation may be, there’s always a solution, there’s always something that can be done. Repetitively not acting upon certain circumstances creates a personal culture of accepted accommodation. In other words, the more you avoid a situation, the more you create excuses and reasons not to do something or make a decision. And that means, according to yourself, inaction equals permission, the opposite of what kind of internal thoughts and conversations that should be occurring. Once you start to undertake and face all problematic situations and decisions, you’ll quickly recognize avoidance is the worst way to deal with an issue.
2) Be Accountable for Your Actions. Adding to the first discipline of facing your fears, you must be accountable for your own actions or even inaction for that matter. Once you start avoiding things in life, whether it’s either inaction or distasteful decisions, you must be willing to suffer the consequences of egregious actions. Negative decisions=negative consequences, right? Isn’t that what all our mothers taught us when we were little, if we didn’t make our beds or clean our bedrooms? It makes sense. With a properly instilled discipline system, whether that’s internal or external, we know there will be consequences because consequences breed future knowledge of what NOT to do. But it’s all too often, we don’t realize or recognize our faults until we’re looking from the outside in. Luckily, facing your fears and asking for help from trusted family and friends, we can appropriately diffuse our internal battle, solving an issue at hand, and lessening the negative ramifications.
Check back tomorrow for Part II…